Is Your Relationship Falling Apart? This Can Save It

When you look at your partner, do you keep remembering how it used to be? There were many smiles and laughter. Time stopped whenever you spent time with them. You wonder what went wrong and you’re conflicted between blaming them or yourself. If you’re determined to save your relationship, this will help you. 

Are you truly listening to them?

Do you get frustrated by how arguments occur over the smallest and unnecessary things? Even when you believe you handled it the right way, they were still unreasonable? It’s because you’re not listening to them. You hear the words, but you’re not understanding the meaning behind them. This is where communication is key. 

You’ll probably have a hard time admitting it, but you’re equally as guilty for the misunderstandings that happen. No matter how the arguments started, there’s always a way you could’ve handled them better. You have values that must be respected and that goes for your partner as well. A discussion about these values is essential. 

The smallest things may mean nothing to you, but it’s everything to them. Both of you need to talk without blaming, cursing, raising voices, and disrespecting each other. This is your other half that you chose to spend the rest of your life with, so their problems are just as important as yours. Do not hint at things and expect them to know what you mean. Don’t play mind games and tell them directly what the problem is.

Finally and most importantly, do you care more about your relationship or your pride? It doesn’t matter if you’re right, what’s important is that you’re both understanding of each other’s opinions and values. Let your walls down and they will also. If you put your guard up to avoid being hurt, you’re showing that you don’t trust them.

Trust and communication is everything in a relationship. Make this vulnerable conversation happen, and it will open up new possibilities. 

4 Tips to Find Your True Love

Before you continue reading, this is specifically for the people that are in search for a genuine relationship. If you’re looking around to casually date then this post is probably not for you. But you’ll never know if the one will show up through casual dating. Either way, I hope you’ll get something from this.

1. Be Patient

This is the biggest obstacle I see which is why I’m mentioning it first. Are you patiently waiting for your partner to appear in your life or are you desperately searching? If it’s the latter, you’re on the wrong path. Hopelessly seeking for one will attract the wrong people. You need to be clear with your intentions because what you think and how you interact may differ.

When people see that you’re desperate, it shows a lack of self-love and a hint of selfishness. Speaking from personal experience, this is a magnet for selfish people. The second tip helps you with this issue.

2. Work on Yourself

Everyone is attracted to people with ambitions and goals. If you want to find someone with those qualities, you have to become dependable also. Focus on taking care of yourself first before pursuing a relationship. You will radiate when you’re content being single. Reading and exercising are great habits to start off with to boost your confidence.

Remember that if you’re not happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

3. Expose Yourself

I don’t mean participating in a naked 5k race, (although you’re welcome to if it personally makes you happy). What I do mean is to go out on local events posted on Facebook, Instagram, or invites from friends. Be yourself, humble, and vulnerable. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. You want someone that truly loves you for you, not a fake persona you made.

Don’t be scared to show your personality. You shouldn’t take it personally if they don’t like you. If anything, you saved time for the both of you from the start. 

4. Be Kind to Others

Compassion and kindness are priceless qualities. Care for people and they will flock to you. Treat others the way you want to be treated. You’ll have a better chance of finding someone that respects you and sincerely cares for you. The same person that will stick with you even through the dark times. They might be able to support you financially, but supporting you emotionally is just as important. 

Hindering Thoughts #1

Everyone is fake

This is an introduction of a topic I will be posting weekly. The purpose of this is to bring the issue into light, and then provide help and answers that will hopefully aid the people who are witnessing these problems. After years of listening to friends and family vent, I gathered up certain subjects that came up quite often. The first issue I will touch on is when people claim that everyone around them is fake. Many of these people I felt bad for, but then I started seeing common traits between them. This is directly towards these people. It may or may not apply to you.  

You treat everyone with distrust

I understand that people have been screwed over many times. Some many, some few. You might have had a string of bad luck back to back. Sometimes it happens from the person we least expected. This causes us to dislike, even hate, people more. Eventually some of us start hating ourselves for being so naive. We’ve all been through it, but there is a reason if it is still happening to you.

It is your mindset when you interact with people. Have you ever met someone for the first time and decide not to pursue a friendship with them because they seemed a little off? They are stuck in the same trap as you. You go around expecting the worst out of people, therefore you don’t put your best effort towards anyone. When you do go out of your way for someone even when they don’t ask you to, you EXPECT something in return.

Genuine friendships don’t work that way. It’s manipulative and people can see right through you once they’re around long enough. This is where you start attracting people who have the same mindset. Then you start to wonder why the “real” people don’t ever show up at your doorstep. You’ve become the person who is a little off, scaring off the people who could have been great friends. Now you’re trapped in the cycle. 

If you want to get out of this cycle, you have to change your mindset. When you start putting your best effort and treat people with respect and want the best for them, you will become a magnet for people with priceless traits. You can’t act authentic, you have to be authentic. When you treat others with respect, genuinely feel that respect for them. Always help others without expecting anything in return. Remember that every small decision you make is transparent.