Coming home from a long day, you’re ready to sit back and relax. As you hit the bed or couch, you grab your phone. The life of friends, family, and strangers alike appear on the newsfeed. Time flies by as new posts pop up after refreshing the app. It may seem harmless, but this vicious cycle is doing damage to you psychologically.
It’s human nature to compare your life to another person. Many people use this as competition or to follow the footsteps of their role model. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case for numerous people. After it’s launch in October 2010, Instagram captivated people all around the world. It became the norm for modern life with over 800 million users.
Depression has become an epidemic and social media is a part of the cause. You have the power to peek into a person’s life in a matter of seconds with the tip of your finger. People start to compare their likes and followers and use that to judge their self-worth. Another side effect that causes negative consequences is instant gratification. With this, a minute of receiving no likes can cause you to become discouraged and disappointed.
Behind the Screen
All you see on the newsfeed are the good times. Posts containing vulnerability don’t come often. People have become so accustomed to this that they are blind to sadness being a normal part of life. Every person in the picture deals with their own stress and insecurities. Some users of Instagram are so busy attempting to paint their life as perfect that they forget to live it.
You have to realize that “average” is okay. All these videos and pictures show that having a perfect life or having talent seems normal when it isn’t. Don’t waste your life playing catch-up and embrace the things you have at this moment. People are running their own personal race, so go at your own pace.
Are you tired of the cycle of waking up to the “same thing, different day” routine? You want to see a change in your life and don’t know where to start? Let’s first work on the foundations and get you out of the auto pilot mode that you’ve been living. Here are three small habits that can make the biggest changes to your life.
Make your bed
This may seem small and insignificant, but don’t be fooled. Too many times the bed is left messy for the simple fact that it will be used again during the night. You might think this reason alone is enough to justify your excuse of being too lazy or too busy, but it has its benefits. This simple task that takes less than a minute of your day affects your everyday decisions. Completing this chore first thing in the morning will give you a sense of accomplishment and discipline. You will be inclined to dealing with more tedious tasks.
If you give yourself a reason to evade this, you may end up treating other priorities the same which will stack up stress.
Take cold showers in the morning
Imagine the times you’ve been to a pool or body of water. Either you or someone you know has a habit of poking the water with their toes and darts off from the slightest touch of cold temperature. It’s uncomfortable and unpleasant compared to sitting in a relaxing hot tub. This feeling of uneasiness is what separates great people from the rest. You are able to overcome this from your morning showers. When your hand is on the knob, you’ll be forced to make a decision. Either you take the easy way, or you step outside your comfort zone.
If you are able to convince yourself to endure this, you’ll be well on your way to taking on opportunities that lay outside your comfort zone with little to no hesitation. Plus, the cold water will give you more energy and motivation like you’ve never had before.
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
– Wayne Gretzky
Wake up early
Waking up at 5-6 am seems like an impossible task but it can be achieved. It gives you a head-start for the day and the time to focus on your goals without being bothered. Dealing with your own schedule can be hectic enough, so completing the most important duties in the morning without distractions can relieve you from added pressure.
Go at your own pace
Just like any other habit, you have to slowly incorporate these into your life. Do not be hard on yourself if you slack off. Just pick yourself back up and keep trying. Everyone is going at their own pace. Problems and issues should never be compared. It isn’t a competition nor should it be something to be proud of. Just remember that you’re doing this for yourself, not for someone else’s approval.
This is an introduction of a topic I will be posting weekly. The purpose of this is to bring the issue into light, and then provide help and answers that will hopefully aid the people who are witnessing these problems. After years of listening to friends and family vent, I gathered up certain subjects that came up quite often. The first issue I will touch on is when people claim that everyone around them is fake. Many of these people I felt bad for, but then I started seeing common traits between them. This is directly towards these people. It may or may not apply to you.
You treat everyone with distrust
I understand that people have been screwed over many times. Some many, some few. You might have had a string of bad luck back to back. Sometimes it happens from the person we least expected. This causes us to dislike, even hate, people more. Eventually some of us start hating ourselves for being so naive. We’ve all been through it, but there is a reason if it is still happening to you.
It is your mindset when you interact with people. Have you ever met someone for the first time and decide not to pursue a friendship with them because they seemed a little off? They are stuck in the same trap as you. You go around expecting the worst out of people, therefore you don’t put your best effort towards anyone. When you do go out of your way for someone even when they don’t ask you to, you EXPECT something in return.
Genuine friendships don’t work that way. It’s manipulative and people can see right through you once they’re around long enough. This is where you start attracting people who have the same mindset. Then you start to wonder why the “real” people don’t ever show up at your doorstep. You’ve become the person who is a little off, scaring off the people who could have been great friends. Now you’re trapped in the cycle.
If you want to get out of this cycle, you have to change your mindset. When you start putting your best effort and treat people with respect and want the best for them, you will become a magnet for people with priceless traits. You can’t act authentic, you have to be authentic. When you treat others with respect, genuinely feel that respect for them. Always help others without expecting anything in return. Remember that every small decision you make is transparent.