Is Your Relationship Falling Apart? This Can Save It

When you look at your partner, do you keep remembering how it used to be? There were many smiles and laughter. Time stopped whenever you spent time with them. You wonder what went wrong and you’re conflicted between blaming them or yourself. If you’re determined to save your relationship, this will help you. 

Are you truly listening to them?

Do you get frustrated by how arguments occur over the smallest and unnecessary things? Even when you believe you handled it the right way, they were still unreasonable? It’s because you’re not listening to them. You hear the words, but you’re not understanding the meaning behind them. This is where communication is key. 

You’ll probably have a hard time admitting it, but you’re equally as guilty for the misunderstandings that happen. No matter how the arguments started, there’s always a way you could’ve handled them better. You have values that must be respected and that goes for your partner as well. A discussion about these values is essential. 

The smallest things may mean nothing to you, but it’s everything to them. Both of you need to talk without blaming, cursing, raising voices, and disrespecting each other. This is your other half that you chose to spend the rest of your life with, so their problems are just as important as yours. Do not hint at things and expect them to know what you mean. Don’t play mind games and tell them directly what the problem is.

Finally and most importantly, do you care more about your relationship or your pride? It doesn’t matter if you’re right, what’s important is that you’re both understanding of each other’s opinions and values. Let your walls down and they will also. If you put your guard up to avoid being hurt, you’re showing that you don’t trust them.

Trust and communication is everything in a relationship. Make this vulnerable conversation happen, and it will open up new possibilities. 

4 Tips to Find Your True Love

Before you continue reading, this is specifically for the people that are in search for a genuine relationship. If you’re looking around to casually date then this post is probably not for you. But you’ll never know if the one will show up through casual dating. Either way, I hope you’ll get something from this.

1. Be Patient

This is the biggest obstacle I see which is why I’m mentioning it first. Are you patiently waiting for your partner to appear in your life or are you desperately searching? If it’s the latter, you’re on the wrong path. Hopelessly seeking for one will attract the wrong people. You need to be clear with your intentions because what you think and how you interact may differ.

When people see that you’re desperate, it shows a lack of self-love and a hint of selfishness. Speaking from personal experience, this is a magnet for selfish people. The second tip helps you with this issue.

2. Work on Yourself

Everyone is attracted to people with ambitions and goals. If you want to find someone with those qualities, you have to become dependable also. Focus on taking care of yourself first before pursuing a relationship. You will radiate when you’re content being single. Reading and exercising are great habits to start off with to boost your confidence.

Remember that if you’re not happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

3. Expose Yourself

I don’t mean participating in a naked 5k race, (although you’re welcome to if it personally makes you happy). What I do mean is to go out on local events posted on Facebook, Instagram, or invites from friends. Be yourself, humble, and vulnerable. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. You want someone that truly loves you for you, not a fake persona you made.

Don’t be scared to show your personality. You shouldn’t take it personally if they don’t like you. If anything, you saved time for the both of you from the start. 

4. Be Kind to Others

Compassion and kindness are priceless qualities. Care for people and they will flock to you. Treat others the way you want to be treated. You’ll have a better chance of finding someone that respects you and sincerely cares for you. The same person that will stick with you even through the dark times. They might be able to support you financially, but supporting you emotionally is just as important.